To First Look or Not to First Look

One of the biggest decisions couples face during wedding planning is whether to do a first look or wait for the traditional aisle reveal. Both options have their own charm and emotional impact. It all comes down to what feels right for you and your partner.

What Is a First Look?

A first look is a private moment between the couple before the ceremony begins. It is often set up in a quiet location where you can see each other for the first time without the eyes of a full audience. Many couples love this option because it creates a calm, intimate setting and allows you to share your reactions freely.

Pros of a First Look:

• Calms nerves and allows you to connect before the ceremony

• Offers more time for photos earlier in the day

• Helps you enjoy more of the cocktail hour with guests

• Feels personal and emotional without the pressure of a crowd

• Considerations:

• It breaks with tradition, which may matter to you or your family

• Requires getting ready earlier in the day

What Is a Traditional Aisle Reveal?

The traditional aisle reveal is when you see each other for the first time at the ceremony. It is the classic moment when one partner waits at the altar and the other walks down the aisle. This reveal is dramatic and emotional, especially with friends and family watching.

Pros of a Traditional Reveal:

• Holds to long-standing wedding traditions 

• Captures the raw emotion of the moment in a powerful setting 

• Keeps the suspense and excitement building until the ceremony 

• Considerations: 

• You will need to take most formal photos after the ceremony 

• Can feel overwhelming if you are nervous in front of a crowd

How to Choose What Is Right for You

Think about what matters most to you as a couple. Are you excited by the idea of a quiet moment together before the celebration begins? Or does the magic of the aisle moment feel more special to you? There is no right or wrong answer — only what feels most authentic for your relationship.

You should also talk with your photographer and planner. They can help you understand how each option affects your timeline and logistics, especially when it comes to lighting and photo opportunities.

Photos 1 & 3- Kayla & Robert. Photography- Haley with HS Photo & Video. Venue- The Grand Bohemian.

Photo 2- Chyanne & Nolan. Photography- Allie with AJ Photography. Venue- Hollow Oak Barn.

Final Thought

Whether you choose a first look or wait for the aisle moment, the experience will be unforgettable. What matters most is that you do what feels true to your vision and your love story. Every wedding day is unique — and so is every first look or aisle reveal.